Don't Fight Love
Today, with the help of www.thecadencegrp.com, I'm delighted to welcome two guests to my blog, Dr. Tony Ferretti and Dr Peter Weiss. They are the co-authors of a new and fascinating book on marriage called The Love Fight: How Achievers
& Connectors Can Build a Marriage that Lasts. "Marriage matters," as one of the authors says below. And this timely book might help readers build marriages that matter in the right way. (Click on the image to find the book on Amazon, or scroll down for more information.)
The Love Fight: How Achievers & Connectors Can Build a Marriage that Lasts.
Written by Drs. Tony Ferretti, PhD and Peter Weiss, MD, The Love Fight explains how worldly, successful individuals fail at home in their intimate relationships, often from a mismatch of priorities and styles between the success-oriented 'Achievers' and their relationship-oriented 'Connector' spouses. Throughout this book, they share that there is hope for success in marriage and they provide tangible strategies to make it work.
The Love Fight: How Achievers & Connectors Can Build a Marriage that Lasts.
Written by Drs. Tony Ferretti, PhD and Peter Weiss, MD, The Love Fight explains how worldly, successful individuals fail at home in their intimate relationships, often from a mismatch of priorities and styles between the success-oriented 'Achievers' and their relationship-oriented 'Connector' spouses. Throughout this book, they share that there is hope for success in marriage and they provide tangible strategies to make it work.
'Career success
can be associated with destruction of personal relationships,
yet healthy
relationships produce the greatest joy in life.'
It sounds a wonderful and valuable book, so here are Doctors Ferretti and Weiss to tell you more.
Thank you Sheila! – Pete and Tony
Married to an Achiever?
Does your spouse put work first? Are the
demands of his or her job always taking precedence over your needs or family
needs? Does he or she seem insensitive
or maybe clueless when it comes to your emotions and desires? Are you trying to figure out what’s up with that? That’s why we wrote The Love Fight: How Achievers & Connectors Can
Build a Marriage that Lasts.
Truth is that we used to be those guys too, but people can and do
change. We’ve learned to be better
husbands and fathers, and we’d like to help others improve their relationships. The
Love Fight explains what we’ve learned through our personal journeys and
from Tony’s specialty psychology practice, which is geared towards helping
high-powered professionals with relationship problems.
When worldly successful individuals fail with their family at home,
it’s often from a mismatch of priorities and styles between these
success-oriented “Achievers” and their more relationship-oriented “Connector”
spouses. This Achiever orientation is pretty common among physicians,
attorneys, executives and entrepreneurs and can explain a lot of the
relationship problems these individuals may experience. From a personality standpoint, Achievers are
typically emotionally underdeveloped while exhibiting extreme drive for success,
power and control.
This isn’t all bad; it can be a winning personality in the workday
world. The business environment is often
dog-eat-dog, and the toughest, hardest working people frequently do come out on
top. Unfortunately for the Achiever,
marriage and parenting operate by different rules. When the Achiever brings his driven
personality and “get it done” workday behavior style home to his family, it
harms relationships.
Of course, in The Love Fight
we go into considerably more detail about the specific personality traits of
Achievers and Connectors, how these might have developed in childhood, and how
they might be modified now to improve marriages and family relationships. The two most important concepts to mention
here are that: 1) people can change and 2) any relationship takes effort from both
parties to make it work.
It’s also important to point out that Achievers are usually
mystified by Connectors and vice versa.
Neither truly “gets” the other, each may want to blame the other, but
both will need to change to make their relationship work. Sometimes they are willing; other times one
or both would rather walk away while blaming the other party. One of the chief goals in helping
Achiever/Connector couples, and for our book, is to help Achievers and
Connectors understand each other and understand the dynamics of the
relationship itself. With mutual understanding,
forgiveness and a willingness to change, relationships are healed and
strengthened. We like that!
Honestly, marriage matters. A
lot. Your marriage is probably your
single most significant relationship and an important determinant of your general
happiness and even your health. We urge
you to take it seriously. If you’re a
Connector married to an Achiever (or vice versa) The Love Fight can help.
About the authors:
Tony
Ferretti, PhD, is a licensed psychologist specializing
in helping power couples through relationship woes. For over twenty years, he
has shared his expertise in psychology to help others recognize the additive
nature of power, control, and success. His methods have helped thousands of
clients to achieve balance in their relationships and have been recognized
through the Dr. Phil show.
Peter Weiss, MD, is a physician and health care executive with a passion for
helping others to physical and emotional health. From the bedside to boardroom,
Dr. Weiss has seen talented friends and colleagues lose their marriages through
misplaced priorities. As a high-powered professional himself, he has tempered
his interpersonal style to sustain close and fulfilling relationships.
This sounds a great, timely and wise book, in this world of high-stress high-powered jobs. I hope lots of people will read it and build stronger marriages and families.
More About the book:
Are you going to fight for love or against each other?
Opposites have tied the knot since the beginning of time. To explain the bond,
experts have used the analogies pink and blue, Venus and Mars, or spaghetti and
waffles.
In The Love Fight, Drs. Tony Ferretti and Peter Weiss
address a new dichotomy: the clash between Achievers and Connectors. In
studying couples with Achiever and Connector personalities, this duo
illustrates how this common encounter can create a mutually satisfying
relationship. Their expertise will walk you through the scrimmage between those
who want to accomplish and those who want to relate. They couldn¹t be more
opposite, but Drs. Tony Ferretti and Peter Weiss know how to mentor Achievers
and Connectors through their differences and guide them to a marriage that
lasts.
The Love Fight is a book that can help you understand
your spouse and save your marriage. Its self-assessments and content based on
the authors' years of experience will give you an action plan to achieve
connection today.
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